Life is weird!!!!

Life is weird trust me….I find it really funny……In this Post ill not mention my kid but will write about how people are confused around me…..I feel they are so unsure about themselves. They don’t know what they want in theirlife’s…Whether its parents approval or love of their life….

I know it’s a tough thing ,meaning its really difficult to choose among them. Few people are really lucky where they get both but unfortunately in INDIA the number of not SO LUCKY is more still. May be you can see metropolitans must be having more of love + arrange funda but in a little backward place it’s the same old story….

Its tough man the period during which when you have to decide first are u really ready for D Day in your life? Are you responsible enough? Are you going to take the right decision? The person whom you have chosen is the right one or not or I should say is he THE ONE? Will he be able to take care and understand you the way he does at the moment? How your parents gonna take it ? AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING?

GOD ! The list will go on and on no stopping to it…..But what I feel, have over grown from that. I am right now on the other side of the fence and feel that first of all

Shake yourself, keep a mental peace for example meditate, relax take a deep breath…think point by point. What exactly you want from life? How do u picture yourself in future may be after 10 years that’s also pretty long….

If you feel you still want to grow in career and have a goal to achieve than at that moment only STOP and leave the idea of marriage just scrape it. Totally erase it till the time you feel now I just want to settle down and ready for it.

See for a guy, growing in career after marriage is still easier that a girl cos even nowadays the girl has to see the house have responsibilities of the family + office.

I know there are girls who can excel and fulfill there ambitions even after marriage but in that case there can be many conditions .First one, guy must be very very supportive.

Second one, both are very ambitious and none of them is bothered what the other is doing

Third one, screw the family let me exceed…..(DISASTERJ J )

That’s why I was saying that it should be clear what is more important….

Now if you want to settle down and is in love. You should be first of all very much sure the person you love ,really loves you. It should not be something like I know he says we don’t have any future but he still loves me. That means that guy is taking you for a ride sweetie you are a fool who is getting hurt….

Ok now you are sure that he loves you and will be there for you no matter what it takes….He will not leave at any cost…than my dear go with him and yes you should also love him it shouldn’t be the case, that you know, he was the only option available

So just got married……What I feel is that you should be at the same level and be ready for any type of sacrifice……

Now if the above case is true than u can overcome any type of pressure or any thing in this world and that is TRUE LOVE.

Well now the only thing that is left is if you cant dishearten your parents than please don’t make the other person wait for you and leave him/her as early you know that you cant go against or hurt them.. Than please leave the poor guy/gal…….

PLEASE WAKE UP BEFORE ITS TOO LATE

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Hey!!!!She is one

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I still feel that yesterday only I was in college, than I just joined my company. Few days back only I got married but phew!!! When I come back into my senses I felt Oh god!!!! My daughter has turned one and I am no more a fresh college pass out. Been in my company for more than two years and happily married for two years.
Really years are just flying it just feel like I am still 21 but that’s not true I have moved on, my life has moved on. Everybody else has moved on.

Every one is going in different spheres of life. Some are working, some are studying, some are confused, few are getting married and few are enjoying courtship this can go on n on…
Well all are enjoying phases. Same is the case with me…. I am enjoying my daughter growing up I can see now what I always wanted now its my turn to give it to my baby…
Now I can see how I used to hurt my parents unknowingly. GOD!!! Its tough to cope up…. I feel so hurt u know….
She went for three days with my in laws and man I was going crazy that is what I was wondering how many parents coped up when I left home…Its really tough. Imagine she is only one and I feel like this what will happen when she will be seventeen and Ill be in my late thirties…. And than she goes out of home for studies leaving me alone at home. Imagine she will not come back after that as gradually she will be working some where after that or getting married…. Anything can happen. Now I understand its tough to send your kids away from you…
U know went she was away I was just thinking about her only and was imagining my future…I felt terrible may be I am feeling a little exaggerated but I think I am correct….
Sometimes the life runs to fast and suddenly it stops at a point where you don’t want it to stop. It just get paused there and no mater how much you try it doesn’t
Buzz from that place………but right now I am enjoying the feeling of mother hood. She is one of the best things that happened in my life of course the other is having Amit as my husband…. I just love him from the core of my heart…He is my heart and Ruju is my rest of body…. I just can imagine living without them…
God I hope everything turns out good…I just wish from God that keep her happy and let everybody to be happy around her.
:):):)

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